DOWN WITH IT!!!!

I pity the girl. They seem to be newlywed. She doesn't understand that she's in for a world of misery and depression. 

How can a man follow his wife to go open an account and insist so strongly on ensuring that her middle name must be his first name??? 

"You don't understand. This is my wife!" 

And so what?? Chai! 

I don't agree with all that feminist stuff about our conservative rules/norms suppressing women. Those norms were there to PROTECT women, but times have changed. The White man came to Africa and spread narcissism around. Now, those rules are being used by these narcissists to endanger women. But it's not anyone's fault. No blame game. We're all responsible. 

As a woman or a man, you should look at the kind of creature you want to marry. It's not difficult to detect a narcissist. 

As a family, you should look at who wants to marry your family member. 

As a society and government, we should crack down on narcissism and ostracize narcissists. 

It's a collective responsibility and all hands must be on deck! 

Like I love to say, the greatest threat to the human race in the 21st century is not nuclear weapons, it's narcissism. So, down with it!!!!!

SHOULD WE BE GRATEFUL?

In a recent post on Facebook, among other things, Femi Adesina said Buhari deserves our gratitude. Is he right?

Personally, I think this administration has done a lot in the last half decade, especially in infrastructure, and has set new records of achievement in Nigeria, and we should recognize those great efforts. But requesting for gratitude? Now, that's reaching.

Buhari himself was a soldier. The job of a soldier is to die for others to live. His reward is in his service, nothing else. The country owes him nothing. It's just courtesy when we decide to honor him. It's not an obligation, and no soldier can force, blackmail or arm-wrestle us into honoring him. Every good soldier knows this. And I  want to believe Buhari is a good soldier.

Also, we are Africans. In Africa, government is of no real use. We do not depend on government for survival. We are not like the Brits and Americans that closely monitor their government, knowing that any little mistake on the part of their government will have heavy ramifications on their lives. There are no food banks or social security nets in Nigeria. We provide everything for ourselves. So for what should we be grateful to the government?

Also, we may have suffered under bad governance for so long, but not long enough to have caught Stockholm Syndrome. Believe it or not, the same people who helped to destroy the country are the ones still in government. And by the way, the president is like every other employee. He is simply doing his job! A job for which he is being paid heavily. And we all know how much he cried and begged to be given this job. So it is Buhari who should be grateful to us for giving him the job and letting him keep it this long. If we feel the need to appreciate or honor him, we will. If we don't, we won't. There's nothing anyone can do about it. But as Africans, we are kind, thoughtful and respectful people, so you can trust us to give honor to whom honor is due. You don't need to remind us.

ATTACK ON A DEFENCELESS DEFENCE ACADEMY

The recent attack on the Nigerian Defence Academy does not come as a surprise to me. I have never been impressed with the crop of officers produced by that institution, so the reported case of negligence and incompetence is also not a surprise to me. 

In addition, Kaduna state has always been a hotbed of violence and recently the headquarters of bandits in that region. The attack was embarrassing of course, but it's neither the first nor the 50th attack on a military formation in Nigeria. What I find funny though is the fact that there could even be a broken fence in a military formation resident in a highly dangerous area and that bandits could come in and "shoot sporadically", kill, kidnap and leave unscathed.

Where was the base security? Why were there no routine patrols in an area that has experienced frequent attacks? And most importantly, how many people were on guard duty for them to be so easily overpowered and the rest unable to respond to the attack? Why were capable personnel in other parts of the base not mobilised instantly to go after the attackers? It is shameful and a massive national disgrace to Nigeria and its Armed Forces. But unfortunately, it's not the first and it most likely won't be the last.

I have heard that they are planning to court-martial the erring officers, but that's simply an effort to save face. What the military should look into is how such a dereliction of duty could have happened in the first place. It's a clear statement on the policy and levels of discipline in the institution and also a reflection of the leadership and training. We hear all the time of the military carrying out heroic feats during routine patrol, but now that such feats were sorely needed, they were caught unawares. It's unfortunate.

I would recommend a thorough investigation and an immediate change of leadership along with a full review of the institutions' programs and security architecture. If military institutions are so porous, what does it say about the security and sovereignty of the country and its citizens??